It’s wonderful, in my opinion, to see how much of myself I could relate to in the character of the film Nymphomaniac throughout both volumes, from growing up and taking charge of every decision, single-handedly based on her terms, her rebellious nature, her moments of aloofness, her philosophy of lust and her avoidance of love, her emotions being thrown like a whirlwind into the act of sex, her destructions of interpersonal relationships, her views on society and how humanity can be summed up in one word: Hypocrisy.
So much of me, belong to this character and it astonishes me that a director has taken the time to put together the story of this woman who I look at as a heroine. I never once pitied or judged her although she managed to critique herself harshly and understandably so. But what I do take away from the film itself is, in society, I think people are given two choices. The first is you could play the game based on the terms and conditions of society as long as you’re faking happy to keep the image of conformity intact. Or the second: You can be an outcast.
I think her struggles are very real and of course society doesn’t let up on the notions of how she should behave, for instance when one of her bosses demanded she get help for her sexual addiction. Its constant questioning, steady debating on what’s right, what’s wrong and according to whom? The beauty is in how she stands up for herself in her ball of strong integrity despite the gnawing loneliness she possesses or those in the path looking to disgrace her light whether done subtle or forwardly.
She fights for herself because to put it simply it’s about survival.